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Friday, November 17, 2006

A letter to a friend

Hi Uday,

There is one thing to ask, haunting me for a very long time.

Why there is a great urge of expression and why one feels something more than just a success when you think someone understands you?

The homo sapience sapience is a species evolved with a fundamental tendency of being in a group, which is the main reason for the achieved height of evolution. But at this stage, after 7 thousand years of life in the “designer” environment with an evolving brain, we have far better receptors for Feelings a far better tool box for judgment, and a highest confidence in an individual any species ever had. Then why this?

Reply at your convenience.
Take care.


Hi Dhara,

What a coincidence! Just yesterday I saw a movie and one dialogue will fit in the answer of your question.

Beverly Clark: Do you know why we get married?
Other Person: Passion, I guess.
Beverly Clark: No, it is not passion. It is the need to share our life, to share each of our moments with someone so close to us. We need a witness to our lives. There's a billion people on the planet... I mean, what does any one life really mean? But in a marriage, you're promising to care about everything. The good things, the bad things, the terrible things, the mundane things... all of it, all of the time, every day. You're saying 'Your life will not go unnoticed because I will notice it. Your life will not go un-witnessed because I will be your witness'."

(from movie Shall we dance)

The great urge of expression is nothing but an inherent hard-coded urge to share. Our life gets meaning by sharing it with others. It is not only big things that we want to share, it is also life's small trivial things that by sharing we may make meaningful. The seemingly introvert person might not share one's thoughts or emotions, still one might be sharing one's Soul in unknown ways. Just as someone has said: No man is an island. all of us are connected with unseen threads of divine. Sharing only manifests that connection with others, and with Self. Sharing is the highest expression of deeper Love.

We all have one other basic instinct, to get Love and recognition. When someone knows you, both of you have same vibration frequency, that is to say, you both are on the same plane (of mind and/or beyond mind). Anything that matches our basic frequency creates resonance (remember 11th science?).Actually, this is the best way of finding your soul-mate - the one with whom your basic frequency matches. There is thrill and joy if you can see and touch the hidden treasure that each one of us carries within us. Understanding someone truly is not easy. Understanding self is even harder. Success is a very small word for the feeling that you get when you can achieve it. You feel connected. You feel part of One.

Yes, you were right in saying that during all these years of evolution, we have progressed much, and mostly due to working as a group. Even if there were few bright sparks of humanity who have changed the course of history, it were large groups as an instrument which spread and live their message (Rama,Krishna,Christ,Budhha,Mahavir and others). This "far better receptors for Feelings a far better tool box for judgment, and highest confidence in an individual any species ever had" does not imply that man can stay within himself. If anything, evolution has made him wise and he understands that being in group can help him or restrict him in his way of life, only if he can choose the correct one.

Of course, each individual is unique. Each individual has one personal goal to fulfill during one's stay here. That way one's journey is alone. But, Sharing makes it colorful. There are many hidden works being done through us. Being with God's other children can make us realize that we are also part of all and that we also belong to Him.

Hope this will help you in your search...
Thank you for sharing your thoughts, questions and search...
Thank you for making me realize all these as I wrote it...