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Friday, November 17, 2006

A letter to a friend

Hi Uday,

There is one thing to ask, haunting me for a very long time.

Why there is a great urge of expression and why one feels something more than just a success when you think someone understands you?

The homo sapience sapience is a species evolved with a fundamental tendency of being in a group, which is the main reason for the achieved height of evolution. But at this stage, after 7 thousand years of life in the “designer” environment with an evolving brain, we have far better receptors for Feelings a far better tool box for judgment, and a highest confidence in an individual any species ever had. Then why this?

Reply at your convenience.
Take care.


Hi Dhara,

What a coincidence! Just yesterday I saw a movie and one dialogue will fit in the answer of your question.

Beverly Clark: Do you know why we get married?
Other Person: Passion, I guess.
Beverly Clark: No, it is not passion. It is the need to share our life, to share each of our moments with someone so close to us. We need a witness to our lives. There's a billion people on the planet... I mean, what does any one life really mean? But in a marriage, you're promising to care about everything. The good things, the bad things, the terrible things, the mundane things... all of it, all of the time, every day. You're saying 'Your life will not go unnoticed because I will notice it. Your life will not go un-witnessed because I will be your witness'."

(from movie Shall we dance)

The great urge of expression is nothing but an inherent hard-coded urge to share. Our life gets meaning by sharing it with others. It is not only big things that we want to share, it is also life's small trivial things that by sharing we may make meaningful. The seemingly introvert person might not share one's thoughts or emotions, still one might be sharing one's Soul in unknown ways. Just as someone has said: No man is an island. all of us are connected with unseen threads of divine. Sharing only manifests that connection with others, and with Self. Sharing is the highest expression of deeper Love.

We all have one other basic instinct, to get Love and recognition. When someone knows you, both of you have same vibration frequency, that is to say, you both are on the same plane (of mind and/or beyond mind). Anything that matches our basic frequency creates resonance (remember 11th science?).Actually, this is the best way of finding your soul-mate - the one with whom your basic frequency matches. There is thrill and joy if you can see and touch the hidden treasure that each one of us carries within us. Understanding someone truly is not easy. Understanding self is even harder. Success is a very small word for the feeling that you get when you can achieve it. You feel connected. You feel part of One.

Yes, you were right in saying that during all these years of evolution, we have progressed much, and mostly due to working as a group. Even if there were few bright sparks of humanity who have changed the course of history, it were large groups as an instrument which spread and live their message (Rama,Krishna,Christ,Budhha,Mahavir and others). This "far better receptors for Feelings a far better tool box for judgment, and highest confidence in an individual any species ever had" does not imply that man can stay within himself. If anything, evolution has made him wise and he understands that being in group can help him or restrict him in his way of life, only if he can choose the correct one.

Of course, each individual is unique. Each individual has one personal goal to fulfill during one's stay here. That way one's journey is alone. But, Sharing makes it colorful. There are many hidden works being done through us. Being with God's other children can make us realize that we are also part of all and that we also belong to Him.

Hope this will help you in your search...
Thank you for sharing your thoughts, questions and search...
Thank you for making me realize all these as I wrote it...



  • Dear Udaybhai

    i mostly know about the flavour of person by article on which he puts comments. I read all your past comments of readgujarati and from that i know that your test is high ! and today when i visited your blog, oh my god.... you are writing very superbly.

    If possible, translate this post in gujarati and send it for gujarati readers.

    I also want to talk with you on phone if you give me number.

    thanking you, wish you all the best.

    By Anonymous mrugesh shah, at December 22, 2006 9:03 PM  

  • I am on ur blog ...suddanly frm readgujarat......if possible transtlate in gujarati...reader wait for u......

    By Anonymous naraj, at April 15, 2007 1:06 PM  

  • Will there be a day, when we will agree? I am not sure. It doesnt matter either. But I can never agree with the point that humanity progressed as group and sparks were far and between.

    Course of humanity is a biography of those few individuals who dared to think against the group. Starting from the first monkey who decided to walk on two legs. Staying together is valued very highly in some species. Research and evaluate and you will see that those are the weakest species in their particular environments. Dominant species don't mind being alone.

    Creating something and being able to appreciate the beauty of it gives a joy beyond explanation. What you seek from others is mere approval of what you already know is superb. This need I think has developed out of being unsure of our judgmental powers or neutrality about our own creation, which is only fair in amateurs. Experts, you will observe, do not seek approvals and go against all norms and rules to do what they think is right.

    Habit or hobby of sharing is acceptable trait, please don't make a virtue out of it.

    Prodigal Batch mate is back to haunt you. ;)

    By Blogger B for Bihag, at July 30, 2007 2:14 PM  

  • You are right in saying that there were few individuals who dared to think differently. And those have made the difference. Even I wrote same. My point is: There are large groups / common mass who accepted/ adapted to this difference and carried forward it to generation after generations. What a bright individual creates, a group sustains and maintains. A single person can change the world at its time, but without his/her doings getting propagated, it will wither out.

    Who knows there might be few individuals who dared to think radically and came out creating something extraornidary (thoughts/ideas/machines anything). However, if it is not shared with others, it is lost with that individual. And then, society as a whole does not progress. That is why sharing is such a virtue, my friend.

    More on sharing: Apart from this knowledge sharing, there is something like sharing deepest part of yourself. That is Love. I see great virtue in that also.

    Hoping to get something from my Prodigal Batch mate...

    By Blogger Uday, at July 30, 2007 3:25 PM  

  • Again the same point. Society does sustain what is created by an individual, largely not with respect but with grudges. These radical thinkers we are talking about, society burnt them at stakes, threw them in exiles, incarcerated them in their homes and disheartened them in all possible ways. How many great brains died before they were valued?

    Non-productive component of the society for example religion, government, establishment, etc. want to make a virtue out of sharing because they want to scavenge away the production of someone else's efforts - be it in terms of taxes / donations / any other name.

    Why should inventions / ideas be shared? They should be paid for by society in gold. But that would be too much of a cost for these scavengers, hence the virtue out of sharing.

    sharing might be a good idea for some people might not be for others, but it is neither a virtue nor a vice. Judgment value should not be attached to it.

    Trust I am making my point clear.

    By Blogger B for Bihag, at August 01, 2007 7:07 PM  

  • hi uday...
    after a long time i just thought to visit your blog, and really, it felt so good to read this post.

    somehow, i got the answer to some of the questions which i ask to myself frequently, but didnt ask to someone else.

    thanks a lot friend, thanks for being you...!!

    By Anonymous jayshree, at October 15, 2007 6:16 AM  

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